Changing Your Focus as Your Interests Change
I fell down a rabbit hole this weekend with snow-pocalypse in the south and somehow saw the TJ Mousetis show, yoga associated with walk in love, recipes on the walk in love blog, thrifting classes… it was incredible and showed you’ve walked so many different business “lives” over the years. How have your interests, values, and desires impacted where you pivot/turn next (knowing business still have to make money, or else it would be called a hobby)? It was a fun rabbit hole, by the way!
Emotional processing for different kids
Can you please talk in more detail about how you’re training your girls in emotional intelligence/emotional processing? I have one who has flash in the pan style anger, and it’s much easier to review his emotions and techniques for staying calm afterwards. Our oldest really wallows in “negative” feelings though. He doesn’t seem to work through them, but gets stuck in the feeling. Any specific advice for this type of personality?
Hobbies and their place in the home
Wondering if you could touch on how you carve out time for you to do your hobbies (specifically Brooke). As Moms we are so often pulled in by the demands of our home, kids, etc and there is always something that needs to be done. When do you find time to sit and do something for yourself like read or other “granny hobbies”? Do you model this for your kids? I think I’m finding that the demands of my home are fighting with the desire to do something for myself. For example, I’d rather crochet then fold the 7 baskets of laundry shoved into 3 baskets.
Finances
Bagel chip money shows even more the difference in financial experiences growing up between you both - how has that shown up in your financial goals, priorities, behaviors, and decisions? What strategies and practical steps have you taken throughout your marriage to stay united with different financial histories and experiences?
Room sharing
Hi!! We just found out we’re pregnant with baby #3!!! Yay! I grew up the only girl out of 4 kiddos and never had to share a room. Our kids eventually will be sharing a room. Could you talk about your experience with that? Did you grow up sharing rooms? Does baby get their own room and the two older share (boy and girl) until the same gender are old enough to share? Pros, cons?? Just curious on your experience since this is new for me :)
Discipline techniques that work
It sounds like your girls are really well behaved. It’s hard to imagine them giving you attitude, fighting with siblings, pitching fits, etc. They’re kids, so I think they must, but, must they? Do these problems exist in your house? Can you give a general look at your discipline, or the few techniques that work? Our house is very different that yours, younger, closer in age, boy dominated and led, but I feel like boys homes should be able to have peace and order too.
Suggested ages for independent chores
Brooke saying that Sunny could almost independently cut her avocados! 🤯 Rather than ask what should my kids be doing at what age. How did you get started? How did you progress, if that looked any different than the starting? And do you have a few examples of what your girls are currently doing and/or some chores/independent work they progressed through as they got older?
Adoption
My husband and I are in the process of adopting child #4 (we have 3 bio kids, this is our first adoption). We don’t have a set number of kids but felt the Lord calling us to expand our family this way in this season. TJ - sometime in a podcast, can you speak to what it was like growing up in a family with adopted siblings? What are some things that you feel like your parents did well, and what are some things you think your family could have done better? Thank you!
#249: What are we saying no to right now?
What would you say to a married couple that struggles with one party probably saying yes to too many things and the other party saying yes to nothing? Thinking about your most recent episode, #249: What are we saying no to right now? I loved this episode so much. I was taking notes like a madman. I could give a lot more context for this question, but didn’t want to overwhelm.